Sunday, January 31, 2010

What would you do?

Have you ever been in a situation where you have NO idea what to do? Seriously, that's where we are right now. There is a family that lives across the street from us. They move in a little over a year ago and we don't know them. We know nothing about them other than they have 3 kids and 2 of them are Max and Madeline's ages. We have tried to make eye contact, and wave but nothing. Nothing in return. Chase has even purposefully rolled a ball in their front yard while they were outside. He went over and got it, has taken their dog back when it got out twice and nothing other than thanks. I know this doesn't sound like a big deal but I'm getting to it!

2 weeks ago their oldest daughter came over while the kids and Chase were playing out in the front yard. (I was at urgent care working) She's 8 years old, very nice little girl. Her and Madeline really played well together. Madeline was very excited because all the other kids in our neighborhood are older and Boys! Chase was talking to her and asking questions when she told him that she's home every day by herself. EVERYDAY until 6:15-6:30. Her stepdad doesn't really like company. (They are the people who talk to you thru the door-non welcoming!) After playing in the snow for a while they all came in the house. The neighbor girl included, she carries her cordless phone with her incase her mom or step dad were to call. She was very nervous about them not finding out she was over here. The phone rang and she quickly ran outside to get it NOT telling them where she was. She left at about 5:45 and Chase went over after her mom got home and went over to tell her about the afternoon! He lied for her saying Madeline saw her watching them play and asked her to come over. The mom was terrified immediately- I'm assuming because of course we all knew they were leaving her home alone! Chase made sure they knew she was more than welcome to come over any night we are home. He also told her Madeline and her played very well. They played Go-Fish 5 or 6 times. We saw nothing else over her until the next day when she saw us pull in the drive way and came over quickly to tell us she had been grounded for 2 weeks and may or may not be coming back over after that.

Here's where the drama for me starts- I immediately want to call the authorities and have someone come get her and rescue her from sitting home alone every night in a dark house. Or sitting in the basement window watching our family play outside. It's a very very eerie feeling I have. My heart is torn we haven't seen her at all since she was grounded. That was over 2 weeks ago. If it goes any longer this week I will have to make the call! I don't know their circumstances I'm trying not to judge them. After care is expensive. But knowing they just bought a new sound system (saw the boxes on the curb for the trash)couldn't they make it work? We have a neighbor lady down the street who's husband died this past summer. She sitting at home every day couldn't they make it work. Wouldn't it be nice if both of them could have someone to talk too? (Her parents wouldn't know about the other neighbor lady because they don't come out) I don't want anything to happen to the little girl. I don't but I don't want anything to not happen for her either.
I look at the pictures of my two and I think wow! Madeline is 7 Max is 4 there is no way I would ever leave them home ALONE!
So, bloggers do I make the call? Do I go over there? What would you do?


Chandra said...

Hmm, I don't know. You don't really have any 'actual' evidence that something is going on so you may be opening up pandora's box. I would talk to the Mom first, go through the proper channels, cover all your bases before making that call.

We leave Coop from time to time if we need to run to the store, we're talking no more then a half hour or so and he's perfectly fine with that. No going outside, no answering the door for anyone and keep your phone on you at all times are the RULES..but until 6:00 or 6:30...that's a long time for an 8 year old...I would keep an eye out for that little one and let the Mom know you are there to help.

Tiffany Walensky said...

That is tough.. I'm not sure what I would do, I probably would make a call. Poor little girl.

Anonymous said...

Wow. I just read this, and my heart breaks for that little girl. It's been over a month since you wrote it; has anything come of it? All I can think of is that her picture is on a milk carton somewhere. Honestly, it sounds as if they're trying to keep her hidden. Or something.
I do think you need to do something; if you don't and then something happens, you'll never get over the "what if's". Poor little one...